Is Your Significant Other a Reader/Writer?

I stole this post from a blogger I follow, but yesterday was a long day. I don’t remember who it was. Whoops. I altered the topic just a bit anyway.

I know not every blogger who follows my blog is a writer. But I imagine every one of you is definitely a reader. Otherwise I have no idea why you clicked that follow button in the first place. Ha. But really, I think most of y’all read a whole lot more than I do and I think it’ll be interesting to hear how many of you are married to or in relationships with others who don’t happen to read much, if at all.

For me this question is SO easy to answer. I’d answer your question with one of my own. Girlfriend? What girlfriend? I have no one. Which is perfectly fine because I might be 23 but I can’t really imagine myself in any kind of serious relationship at the moment. (Unless Jennifer Lawrence is knocking on my door). All the girls I know now who are single are the complete opposite of readers. I’m not sure what the name for those people is. Lost, maybe? So IF I were to find myself in a relationship with someone I already know, then the answer would be no to both parts of this question. I know no writers. I know no readers.

But what about y’all? I can’t tell you how many comments I’ve had on this blog in which someone mentions their wife or boyfriend doing something, so I know y’all can actually answer this. Is your significant other a reader/writer?

On this day in 2014 I published A Novel’s Opening Line.


31 thoughts on “Is Your Significant Other a Reader/Writer?

  1. My husband is a reader and reads all of my work (I am the active writer ). He is also a reader, he reads on the politics of his country. He mentions he would love to write, but feels it wouldn’t be any good –a true writer. Being with someone who doesn’t like to read, when you’re a reader and/or writer is difficult. My ex didn’t like to read or write, now we all understand why he’s an ex now…. haha great post. ๐Ÿ˜€

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    • Hahaha I think you’re the third person or something to make the comment about your ex. I wasn’t even thinking of that when wrote this. Readers/writers can’t be with someone not interested in either of those activities. That’s what it seems like. Haha

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  2. My husband is a reader of subjects which suit his pursuits; other than that he will read something (short) if I suggest he does for a particular reason. I’m the avid reader in the household. ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. Meh, I’ve never cared that Austin isn’t much of a reader or writer. If anything, I prefer it. Sure, I wish he was a bit more into beta-ing for me, but that’s what I have friends and WordPress pals for. Your partner doesn’t need to be your everything.

    On WordPress, I have seen a LOT of writers who don’t want to date people or even be friends with people who aren’t also writers. That seems to be the norm, yet it’s so bizarre to me. I love that Austin is into music and animation, as those are the two arts which I utterly suck at. Our abilities are complementary, so we could potentially join forces to make some really awesome stuff in the future. And at the end of the day, the most important things are that we have the same ideals and vision of the future, and that we never grow sick of each other. If a person doesn’t match those things, that’s *my* dealbreaker.

    Plus, he isn’t a huge flake like I am (and they say most writers are), so he takes good care of me ๐Ÿ˜› If I dated another writer, the entire house would probably fall apart.


    • I guess you must be reading blogs on here that I haven’t found because when I saw the post I stole this idea from it was the first time I’d read anything about this topic. But then you say you’ve seen writers who don’t want to socialize with any non-writers. Welp. I guess I’d have no friends with that logic. Sounds arrogant to me. Imagine if doctors and lawyers thought the same way, though I bet some would argue that they do. Anyway, props to you for not really caring that he’s not a reader or writer. I’d have thought that would be the norm.


      • It’s not really something I’ve seen posted about before either – I’ve just seen it mentioned offhand by other writers in comments/unrelated posts/tweets. It does seem to be the norm from what I’ve known of readers and writers, so I think your expectation is correct.

        I like having diverse friends. Although one of my friends who IS a writer almost never talks about writing, my other two writer friends are kinda pretentious about it. I guess it just depends on if they’re a wellrounded humble person, or if they’d be arrogant about whatever hobby they’d have regardless. Compatible personalites are almost always more important than common interests.


  4. My boyfriend is a read but a slow one. I think I’ve currently given him three books I’ve decided he’ll love, but he’s been stuck forever reading Game of Thrones. I’m 23 too and I will attest to many of my dating prospects pre my current relationships not being book people at all.


    • Hm. He probably doesn’t want you telling him what he should be reading. So he’s just acting like he’s taking forever rather than telling you to quit controlling his reading life. Haha I’m totally kidding. Mostly. ๐Ÿ˜‰


      • haha oh no! I didn’t even consider that. I’ll just have to be content talking about books I like with people on the internet ๐Ÿ™‚


      • You have to continue to act like you’re not on to his scheming. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Yep. Talking to strangers. Nothing wrong with that. ๐Ÿ˜


  5. My husband is a reader and a writer and we often write together. Even when we’re not writing with each other we like to bounce ideas around so much that I’m never sure which of my ideas started out as his and vice versa.


  6. My wife reads everything and a lot. I’ve been in relationships with women who don’t read and I’m embarrassed for myself for having done this. My experience is that nothing can discussed with any complexity or sophistication. Very frustrating.


  7. Reblogged this on The Hermit and commented:
    I have thought about this often actually. My common-law spouse is not a reader. So few people I know these days actually are. I know no writers personally. I just cannot fathom not reading that it always surprises me a little.

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  8. My fiance is a reader…if he wasn’t, I’m not sure we would have made it this long. I think to be with someone who never reads would just be sad. Also I’m a book hoarder so he’d have to like books to put up with how many I buy each year. I’m definitely the bigger reader and book buyer though. We do have some similar tastes too, so it’s nice when we can both read the same book and talk about it.


    • Now that I really think about it, I think I’d prefer the opposite to everything you said. I don’t want someone to talk about books with. I already spend too much time talking about them on WordPress. I’d need a break.


      • Well since we don’t read the same books all the time (probably only a handful of times a year) it’s not bad. My blog is mostly me talking about books to myself. Lol. I have some online people I chat with, but for someone who reads so much, I don’t participate in a whole lot of book based discussions, so I don’t get tired of it.


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